Advice, Dating Online Personals

Opening Lines

What would be your opening line when you see someone that you want to meet and start a conversation with? Sometimes it is just a matter of trial and error. If a certain opening line has worked in the past, chances are, it will be one that is used again. The only thing to remember of course is everyone is different and the same line will not work for everybody. There are many ways to start a conversation with someone you never met before, but it is a skilled and experienced person who knows just what to say and to who.

Sometimes it is not so much what is said, but how it is said, that makes the greatest impression on someone.

Initially, let’s say that a man sees an attractive woman and wants to talk to her. What would be a good opening line for him to approach her with? Generally speaking a man would have to make a decision as to what to say, based on the situation of course. If for instance they were in a diner, he could maybe walk over to her table and ask to borrow the salt or ketchup or something that is on her table that he might need. She would likely hand him the item and that would open the channel of communication for them. It sounds fairly basic but it would work.

Another situation might involve a woman who sees an attractive man in an airport for instance waiting for a flight. If she wanted to be assertive, she could walk over to him and ask him if he knew where the gift shop was. The woman may have to be cautious in such a situation of course due to international risks and also traveling alone, but this may be an effective opening line for them to start talking.

Yet another example of an effective opening line might be where two university students are waiting in line to register for courses and they may want to meet each other. In this case, one of them could ask the other, what program they are in or what courses they are taking. Academic environments are likely one of the easiest places in which to meet people, especially at the start of a year when everyone is new to each other. The whole university orientation thing naturally encourages people to meet each other.

If you want to meet people, you basically have to put yourself in social settings and places that are of interest to you. This way, when you meet someone you will know that you share the same interest. It is somewhat like selective socializing in which you choose the place based on your interest, and then meet someone who shares your interest.

Finally, one of the most important things to remember when you want to meet someone is to be yourself. Just walk up to someone you want to meet and use the opening line that seems to best suit you and the situation. You might be very surprised how easy it is to meet someone and start talking to them, when you don’t try but rather just be you!

Too often we don’t find what we need when we look for it. You usually find what you need when you are not looking and just being you and doing what you like to do.