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Who Calls Who for a Date

With relationships today it does not really matter who calls who first for a date. If both people exchange phone numbers and arrange to get together, the matter of who calls who is really not relevant. The important thing is that you talk to each other again and get to meet for a date since you mutually expressed interest in each other by exchanging numbers in the first place. There are various different views on this though.

Depending on the situation, a woman may want to wait for the man to take the initiative to call her. This may be the best thing to do if the man has just recently broken up and the woman wants to be sure that the man is really ready to date again. It may give the woman a certain peace, knowing that the man made the decision to reach out to communicate with her under these circumstances. The same could be said about a woman who is going through the same situation. In this opposite case, the man may want to wait for the woman to call him to show her readiness to start a new relationship. This is just a general courtesy that may be wise to exercise so that you show a person some respect and also avoid getting hurt by getting involved with someone who has not yet healed from a recent breakup.

Some women have the traditional view that men should be the pursuer and therefore should take the first step in calling a woman that he is interested in. For this to work most effectively, the man has to share the same traditional view of being the pursuer.

Some people are raised in this way and it comes naturally to them to exercise this sort of traditional etiquette.

Another view some men have is that the woman should pursue the man. In this case, a man looks for the woman to be assertive and make the first move toward him by calling him first. This works best if the woman is outgoing and assertive in these ways so that she would be comfortable in being the initiator of the first call. There are many women like this.

Finally, there are the shy people and the extraverted people out there and in this case it will most likely be the extraverted person that will call the shy one. In this situation, the shy person will be appreciative of the other person making the first move and they are too shy to do so. Also, the extraverted person will be happy to play the role of initiator as it comes natural to them to be that way. These types of relationships are interesting as they are like a snail dating a jellyfish because they both thrive in the same water, yet in their introverted and extraverted ways.

Whatever the case is for you, embrace the phone call to the person that you are attracted to, if that is what you are comfortable with. There is nothing to lose. The worst that can happen is that you may get the wrong number and have a good laugh!