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Building Trust

Building and maintaining trust in a relationship is critical for it to succeed. Without trust, a couple has nothing meaningful to build a future on together. Trust is the foundation on which true love thrives. There are several ways in which to build trust in relationships.

First, trust is built on consistency. It is important for a couple to be consistent in both their verbal and non-verbal communication. For example if a person says that they will do something and usually does it, that is a form of verbal consistency. If a person can rely on the consistency of another person, trusting feelings grow between the two people. With respect to non-verbal communication, much the same thing applies. If a person looks at their loved one a certain loving way, and continues to, trust evolves. Also, if a person usually holds their boyfriend or girlfriend’s hand while walking together, trust grows.

Another way to build trust is for a person to exercise being a good listener. When your loved one is talking to you about something that is important to them and you are genuinely listening to them, trust grows. People feel important and appreciated when their loved one takes the time to listen to them. Nobody wants to feel that they are talking to someone who is either not listening or does not care about what they have to say.

Finally, a couple builds trust through building deeper levels of communication with their significant other. Surface talk can only go so far before a person needs more to establish a certain level of trust. For example, it is the difference between a couple talking about the weather together, compared to talking about how each other feel about the meaning of love. One thing is shallow talk while the other is deeper talk. It is the depth of conversation that develops a strong bond and trust. People need to take a chance in establishing a deeper level of communication with their loved one. If they do this, they will experience the truest and deepest form of love and trust. When love is built on trust it almost guarantees that the relationship will work. Trust is that special ingredient from which all good loving things grow.

Sometimes it is difficult to trust when some negative past experiences has hurt you. In such cases a person needs to make an effort to not carry forward past hurtful feelings and associations into their current relationship. To not bring negative emotional baggage from one relationship into another is often easier said than done. Sometimes it just takes time to heal the hurts of the past. Also, past negative experiences or associations need to be replaced by positive ones. Again, time is the magic factor in this sort of healing process. Good things come to those who make an effort to build trust in their lives. Trust is the key to many forms of happiness in life.