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Insecurity Jealousy and Distrust

If you ever have experienced feelings of insecurity, jealousy and distrust in your relationship, you are certainly not alone. In fact, it is very common that people experience such things at some point in their relationship. Generally speaking, these feelings evolve from past hurt or perhaps even from negative experiences that you have had in your current relationship. Whatever the source of these feelings are, it is important to find out why you feel this way. It is only through personal understanding of your own feelings that you are able to deal with these feelings in a positive way.

If you should find out that your feelings of insecurity, jealousy and distrust are rooted in hurtful past relationship experiences; it is critical that you make an effort to leave the past behind you. A new relationship should be treated as a new relationship and old hurts have no place in this. It is easier said than done and it may take some time but it will be well worth it to extend trust in your current relationship in this case and see what positive things result from it.

On the other hand, if you know that your feelings of insecurity, distrust and jealousy are due to negative experiences in your current relationship, than you need to talk to your partner immediately. In this case, you need to express your feelings to your partner and see how they respond. If you are confronted with denial of negative actions and general rudeness and disinterest, chances are that you are not in a good relationship for you. In the contrary, you may discover that your partner was not aware of something that he or she was doing that hurt you and you may be able to rectify the situation and the relationship could improve.

There is also another cause of feelings of distrust, insecurity and jealousy. Sometimes it is how we feel about ourselves that make us vulnerable to these negative feelings. It is important to feel good about one’s self. You need to ask yourself in this case, what do I need to do to feel good and be happy in myself? Inner, personal happiness or lack of it can really affect a relationship in either positive or negative ways. If other women or men make you feel inferior to them, you need to ask yourself why?

It is so important that people do those things for themselves that brings them personal joy and an inner peace. People should not deprive themselves of this. If it means going for a walk everyday or a jog or even going to a gym, just do it! If you deprive yourself of things you need to do for yourself it affects you in a negative way and will in turn, affect your relationship in a negative way. Relationships are about give and take. You each need to give each other time to take time for yourselves to build your personal self up to what you need to be to be happy with yourself. Keep in mind that exercise, affects how a person feels. If a person does not exercise, they physically start to look and feel unhealthy. Exercise also has a way to energize your body and spirit and clear your mind so that you feel even more alive and enthusiastic about things.

Take time for your friends and take time for yourself. Don’t ever sacrifice things that matter to you because it will start to wear you out and bring you down, to be without those things that matter to you. If you like some activity that your partner doesn’t, just do it without them, either alone or with a friend who shares your same interest. You don’t have stop doing something that you enjoy doing just because your partner does not enjoy it. Some people are under the impression that they have to do everything with their partner and they don’t. In fact, it is healthier to do some things together and some things apart or with other friends. It just creates more balance in the relationship if you have together time and time apart.

So, take the time to build yourself up to be the person that you want to be. In doing this, you will feel more confident and those negative feelings will soon vanish. If you are busy enough with your own personal life you will no longer have time to dwell on those things that your partner may or may not be doing. In fact the more you do for yourself, the better you will feel and the more confidence and respect will shine.

People tend to respect those who take time for themselves and put themselves first in some ways. Don’t hesitate to be everything that you are. If you are in the right relationship for you, your relationship will thrive as a result of this. If you are everything that you are meant to be and you are personally happy but the relationship still brings you down, it is time to move on and find the right person for yourself. A good relationship should bring the best out of both of you!