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Body Language - Eye and Face Contact

One of the major ways to improve communication is through better eye and face contact. If you do not appear interested or to be listening, communication will definitely not occur. This is true whether or not there is physical attraction.

In order to be more attractive to the opposite sex, you need to maintain good eye and facial contact. You need to look directly at the person when you speak to him or her. You need to smile, look at the person, and not shy away.

Look at the person’s eyes for a few moments, then look at their nose, their mouth, their chin, and then their entire face. All this should take just a few seconds. Then repeat the process. By doing this, you will appear as though you are genuinely listening to the other person. Your interest will show.

For instance, Jeremy was very attracted to Crystal, whom he met at a party. Yet, Jeremy panicked and became shy when he realized he was interested in her. During their conversation, instead of ooking directly at her, he looked down and off to the side, which made him appear as ifhe definitely was not interested in her. When Jeremy did manage to look at her, his head was cocked at an angle, which also gave the impression he didn’t really care about her.

On top of that, Jeremy appeared to be paying more attention to Crystal’s hands than to her face. In reality, Jeremy wasn’t even thinking about her hands. Yet, he was so uncomfortable and had such poor eye contact that he just zeroed in on her hands, which was a total turn-off to Crystal who quickly ended their acquaintance and walked away.

Lack of eye contact is a typically male trait that can be changed; what happened to Jeremy does not have to happen to you. Yet, communication should also go beyond the face and eyes, as the voice and body also convey rejection or acceptance.