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Better Social Skills for Women Communicating with Men

From girlhood to adulthood, women tend to develop more socializing and better communicating behaviors than men. Therefore, there are not as many things women need to consider in order to improve their communication skills in their personal and social lives. The few exceptions are:

1. If you find someone being rude, sarcastic, or insulting, don’t keep your feelings inside, letting them fester. Instead, express yourself openly and directly.
2. Don’t permit a man to interrupt you. If he does, interject and say, “Excuse me, I’m not finished saying what I have to say.” If he persists and continues to interrupt or if he changes the subject of conversation, say in a loud and firm voice, “Excuse me, I was talking; and I would like to continue on with the subject we were just talking about.”
3. Become more comfortable in talking about yourself and your accomplishments when you are asked about them. Doing so allows the man you are talking with to have a more realistic and true sense of who you are, and what you’re all about.
4. Watch your use of swear and curse words since this too can be a turn-off for men.
5. Don’t be afraid to let a man know that you are angry.
6. Try to talk about more things men enjoy discussing such as sports, news events, automobiles, the arts, and music.
7. Don’t be afraid to approach a man and ask him out, especially if you are interested in him. Oftentimes, it’s appreciated. If he happens to reject you, don’t personalize it and let it affect your self-esteem.
8. During arguments, don’t bring up past problems. Stick to the particular issues at hand and try to resolve them.
9. If a man has problems opening up, don’t push him to talk. Otherwise, it sounds like you’re nagging, which most men find offensive. Let him know that you’ll be there for him, and that whenever he would like to talk, you will be ready to listen. Try to help him by asking more open-ended questions, encouraging more free-flowing conversation, and talking about things he is interested in.
10. Don’t drop your head down and look up when you talk. It makes you look subservient and “victim-like.” Instead, hold the crown of your head up as though there is an imaginary rope pulling it higher. Your eyes should be level with the eyes of the man with whom you are talking.
11. Try to bear down on your abdominal muscles when you talk, which helps to keep your voice pitch under control and a little lower. Besides making you sound more sensuous, it helps you gain more control over your voice when you are feeling anxious and nervous, particularly in a social situation.