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Age Difference in Love with Someone My Mother’s Age

During my visit, we spent time shopping and catching up on our lives.

Before I left, we kept to our usual tradition of going out to our favorite Italian restaurant.

“I still haven’t figured out what I am going to do about Will. What am I going to do, Terri? How am I going to let him down gently? I’ll have to break it off with him.”

Terri smiled at me from across the table, and took my hands. “Sweetie, I’ve listened to you ramble on for the past few days. It’s been Will this, and Will that. You know, for someone who swears she’s not in love with him, you talk like someone who’s in love.”

“I do not!” I exclaimed!! “I am not in love with Will!”

“Are you sure? I think the lady doth protest too much”. I sat back in my chair and tried to come up with a snappy comeback but nothing came to me.

“Terri, he’s the same age as Mom! Where exactly is this relationship going to go? He’s got a 15-year old daughter and a 12-year old son! I haven’t even met them yet! Let’s say we decide to see where this relationship is going to go. What are his kids going to say about this? What if they hate me? What if I don’t like them?”

“His age didn’t keep you from sleeping with him. How will you know where the relationship could go if you don’t give it a chance? Are you sure you aren’t in love with him? Just take one step at a time. Worry about the kids when you figure out where this is going. You and Will will work it out together. I think you should call Will tonight and see what happens.”

I thought about what she said and then thought about Will. Just thinking about him made me smile. And then I really started to miss him so I took Terri’s advice and called him.

He didn’t sound surprised at all to hear from me. I was worried our conversation would be awkward but it wasn’t it all. I told him I had been talking to Terri about him, about us, and that he had told me that he was falling in love with me.

I asked him if he meant it, and if he did what exactly did that mean. Where did he see our relationship going from there? He told me honestly that he didn’t know. He knew that he wanted to make our relationship exclusive and he didn’t want to keep it a secret any longer.

He told me that he had told his children that he was seeing someone and that he wanted them to meet me. That blew my mind.

He asked me again how I felt and I told him that I wasn’t sure. I told him what Terri had asked me and I told him that I was confused about everything.

We ended up talking the whole night on the phone and I didn’t want to hang up

I told him when I would be returning home by train and asked if he could take the day off so we sit down and discuss this seriously. I still didn’t know how far I wanted to go with this relationship. He agreed. I told him that I would call him after I got back to my place and that after I showered and made myself presentable, I would call him.

I was taking an overnight train and I always looked frightful after that train trip. The trip home itself was uneventful but my mind was full of what-if’s and could-be’s. I turned over my conversations with Terri and my all night phone call with Will and kept asking myself could this man really be “the one”.

It was a long night and I definitely did not get much sleep on the long trip home. When the train pulled into the station, I started to sweat. Now on top of fuzzy teeth, gummy contact lenses, disheveled hair, I was turning into one big sweat gland.

At least, I thought as I made my way towards the escalator, I would have a chance to make myself beautiful before my reunion with Will.

As I stifled a yawn, I happened to glance up at the top of the escalator and to my shock; Will was standing there with a sheepish grin on his face and holding a bouquet of flowers.

I swear to God, my heart skipped a beat! I was so happy to see him and then tears came to my eyes when I realized what a sight I must seem to him. I wanted everything to be perfect and I looked a mess! When I reached the top of the escalator, Will was right there and he literally swept me off my feet. My bags hit the floor, momentarily forgotten, as he held me in the biggest hug.

After he finally let my feet touch the ground again, he thrust the bouquet of flowers and a little gift box towards me and confessed that he missed me so much, that he couldn’t wait to see me again.

He picked up my bags and steered me towards the taxi stand. During the drive home, he told me that we would go straight to his place, and if I felt I had to, I could shower there. I could feel myself start to panic again. I didn’t have a chance to clear my head or organize my thoughts.

He seemed to understand my feelings and took my hands in his and said, don’t worry, we have all day.

Back at his place, while I showered, brushed my teeth, and changed into some clean clothes, he surprised me by cooking me breakfast. The smell of sizzling bacon and eggs seemed to calm me down and I decided to stop trying to over think everything and resolved to just let whatever was going to happen, happen.

Breakfast was delicious. Between bites, we talked about our experiences over the last few days. Again I told him about my conversation with Terri over dinner and that I had done a lot of thinking during the train ride home.

“But it wasn’t till I saw you at the train station, holding the bouquet of flowers that it really hit that I have fallen in love with you/”

Food forgotten, he reached across the table and kissed me hard. All my concerns evaporated and no more words were spoken as he led me towards the bedroom.

Later, we both decided it was time for reality to set in and we decided to discuss where we went from here. This is where things were going to get sticky.