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November 23rd, 2007

Head Posturing of Women

Head Posture - Women There are many differences between men and women, some subtle and some more noticeable. Body language is the big term these days and is one of the noticeable areas where the sexes can differ. But, unlike general body language analysis, there are specific parts of the body that can give specific clues as to what a man or woman is thinking.

Head posture or gestures can say a lot that words do not say. Men and women use their heads in different, though, similar ways, though. Have you watched a man and woman talk in a bar? What is going on with the woman’s head? The man is usually looking straight at her, even through her.

But, what do women do? If they are not interested in a man, they usually continue to look around the room. She may look down and to the side or even raise her head in a sort of arrogant pose. These are all signs of non-interest. If she is interested, she may initially look down but, usually, straight down, in a humble, “I’m yours”, sort of way. When she looks at the man, she will look him straight in the eye to see if she can detect his honesty. Once she is interested, she will probably tilt her head, as well. All these head movements are part of a language that we will explore in greater detail. They will give you cues to know exactly what a woman is think, and feeling.

So, we’ve said that the head can be tilted up or down. This can mean different things depending on context and inner dialogue. If a woman tilts her head down and looks to the side with rolling eyes, you know that she is not interested or has found your conversation a little too much. If she tilts her head down, however, and looks towards her feet or the front of her body, she is showing that she may submit this body and heart to you. Not right away, mind you. She may actually look down and then look back up into a man’s eyes. This is a good sign. Note, though, that if a woman tilts her head down and keeps her eyes glaring at you, she is probably feeling hostile. Watch out.

Now, what if she tilts her head upwards? If a woman tilts her head upwards at a high angle, she is either arrogant or feeling intimidated. If it is an arrogant gesture, she thinks that you are an idiot and wishes that you would go away. Now, if you’ve only just approached her, she may find you intimidating; try to relax her fears by showing her what a nice guy you are. Crack a joke or tell a friendly story - like the one when you helped the elderly lady across the street. If she tilts her head up, looks sideways, and smiles, you’ve probably said something that really amused her. Quickly think back to what it was and keep that theme alive. However, if she tilts her head back and squints, she thinks you’re a liar. Say something truthful really, really quickly.

So far, we’ve talked about head tilts up or down. Now, what does it mean to have a woman tilt her head to the side? This is a behavior that you’ll find more in women than men. Have you ever had a woman look deep into your eyes and tilt her head slightly? It can send shivers of joy down your spine.

So, how can we interpret head tilting to the side? Well, if a woman tilts her head to the side at a slight angle, she is showing her interest, and her sensitivity. If she tilts her head and pushes her face forward she is either trying to understand something you are saying or trying to kiss you. Either is a good sign you are not totally boring her. If she pulls her head back while tilting slightly, you may have said something to cause her to suspect that you are lying or stretching the truth. Or, she is developing a growing distrust. You should try and change that right away.

If she tilts her head at a medium angle (especially if she furls her brow), she is confused by something you are saying or doing. Try to find out what this is. If she pushes her face forward at this medium angle, she is really questioning you and practically calling you a liar. If she pushes her face back, she is really questioning your veracity.

Now, if she tilts her head at a large angle, she may be inviting you to get horizontal with her. She is showing you a large degree of her neck and exposing her skin for you to take in. If she smiles when she does this, pay both bills and take her away from the crowd.

Another head gesture to decipher is the head nod. The head nod is used in most cultures on earth to signify an affirmative or positive response to something that is being said or shown. Some scientists say that this is an innate behavior shown in many primates besides humans. If we apply this to understanding female head gestures, we know that if a woman is nodding, she is agreeing with everything we are saying, right? Well, maybe not. In fact, if she is nodding really fast, she may just be impatient with what you are saying. Speed and style is the key here.

If she nods by lowering her head first, she is nodding in caution. If she raises her head first, she is happily and optimistically agreeing with you. If she nods slowly and affirmatively, you have her undivided attention.

If you are engaged in conversation that is positive and you are getting the head shake (as in shaking one’s head No), she is probably disagreeing with you in her internal dialogue or is in a state of disbelief about what you are saying. Or, she just plain feels sorry for you! Always explore that response and try to provoke a positive, affirmative head nod, not a head shake.

And, if she jerks her head quickly to the side, she may be lying. Finally, there are two head gestures that, if you see, you are definitely in a woman’s good graces and field of interest. If she does a head toss, by throwing her head up and to the side so that her hair flies out of her face, she is most definitely interested in you. Also, if she is looking at you and does the infamous hair flip, ie. throwing her hair back, she wants to show you more of her face. This is also a very good sign.

Head gestures are an integral part of body language. Understanding how a woman uses these signs can help you not only tell if she is interested but allow you to maneuver correctly to end up taking her home and, maybe, to the church.


November 22nd, 2007

Head Posturing of Men

Head Posture - Men Men and women differ in many ways, many subtle and many much more noticeable. In their body language, men, while sharing some similarities, are quite different than women. And, head gestures, in particular, can tell a woman a lot about a man. Specific gestures or head posture can say a lot of things he doesn’t say with words.

Do you ever see a man tilt his head in the same way a woman does? Not usually. In fact, think about a man and a woman talking in a bar. A man will probably tend to stand centered and not move his head nearly as much as a woman. This is tied to an ancient and primitive need for a man to be strong and steadfast, showing his dominance to get a mate and food. So, a man will not move his head as much as a woman and that is the first thing that a woman needs to understand. Sometimes, a man may seem to be staring a hole in the back of your head. In fact, he may not be suffering from any condition; he may just be asserting stoic and very still manhood. This can still be uncomfortable for some women but shouldn’t be feared…in most cases.

For many men, though, direct eye contact is not something they prefer with women. They may periodically stare you down but men tend to converse with their head at an angle. So, if you find a man looking at you from an angle off center, that is normal.

Men don’t tend to look down, though, unless they lack confidence or are really shy. This might be a sign of weakness. In fact, studies show that women are attracted to the Alpha male confidence. So, most men always keep their head up and their gaze level. The only time that this may change is if you, as a woman, get into a man’s heart.

If a man does tilt his head down, especially after you’ve given him that special look, he is probably interested in you and doesn’t want to just stare at you, not yet anyway. You’ve probably seen this sort of exchange between a woman and a man. A man notices a woman and can’t help but look at her beauty. She looks over and sees him staring. Finding him interesting, she looks back to give him a good inspection. In that locking of the gazes, the man will sometimes look down, sometimes after a wry smile, because he is overcome by the woman’s beauty.

At times, man will tilt his head upwards, as well. If he tilts his head high, this may be a sign of arrogance. It can also mean that he is studying you as he is not sure what to make of you. Men are simple creatures and, when confronted with a complex, intriguing and beautiful woman, they may raise their heads as their brains go to work trying to analyze what they are observing.

Now, men do sometimes tilt their heads to the side. Sometimes, this is just a sign of confusion, trying to figure out the current situation. If the tilt angle is great and he is talking to a woman, he may be trying to imagine what it would be like to be lying down with this woman. So, if you are conversing with a man and he tilts his head and smiles, he is interested, very interested.

The head nod is another gesture to watch for in a man. In most cultures around the world, the head nod is used to signify a positive or affirmative response to what is being said. Scientists say that this is innate behavior in many primates, including humans. Thus, when a man is nodding, they are probably agreeing with us. But, this is not always the case. A nod can connote agreement. It could also be a sign of impatience. Men are not talkers and women are. If a man thinks you are talking too much, he may just continue to nod his head as you talk on and on. If you, as a woman, are talking at great length and the man you are conversing with is just nodding his head, you can rest assured that he may not even be listening to you. His mind could be on the Monday night football game.

The style of a head nod is important, too. If a man nods by lowering his head first, he may be nodding in caution. Sometimes, a man will do this on the first encounter with a woman. It is a cautious gesture of interest as he still has his primitive guard up. If a man raises his head and then nods, there’s a good chance he is more secure in his greeting or, in conversation, he is in happy agreement with what you are saying. If a man nods slowly and deliberately at you, he is probably not only attracted to what you are saying but attracted to you, as well.

Now, if you are in conversation with a man and you get a head shake (like shaking your head No), that is a sign of disagreement and their internal dialogue is one of disbelief in what you are saying. It is good to explore, think about what you were saying and what he would be disagreeing with. And, if a man jerks his head to one side quickly while he is talking to you, he may be lying.

Head gestures are a very important part of body language. Understanding how a man uses these signs can help you tell if he is interested in you and give you clues on how to best have your way with him, whatever that way may be.


November 14th, 2007

Body Language of Couples

Body Language of Couples Have you ever gone to a social gathering, shopping mall or got on public transit and observed how some couples interact. Sometimes you can’t help notice because certain pairs may be fighting and yelling at each other. But, sometimes, you’ll see a couple and just know from the way they are sitting or the way their bodies are aligned to each other that they are either totally happy or very mismatched. Now, looks are not everything and can sometimes be deceiving but the field of body language applies to couples as much as it applies to either sex individually. And, your observations may, in fact, be a true read of unconscious body language between the couples you’ve observed.

So, if we look at couples and their body language, what are some of the characteristics of the body during couple interactions?

If we start with the face, we can do a simple analysis and ask if the couple faces each other. Do they actually look at each other? Some couples appear happy but they do not actually look at each other. And, when they do, they become serious or even scowl. This is a sure sign that there is tension in paradise. Women almost always prefer eye contact so if they look away, there must be something there.

Another facial cue is to look to see if the couples raise their chins when they look at each other. This is a sign of animosity and exists when there is something the couple can’t communicate about and feelings are pent up inside.

And, if you see forced smiles, this can be a sign of some sort of conflict between the partners. When a couple has issues and tries to keep them hidden, they will smile at others but, when they look at each other, their faces will change from a smile to disgust and then back to a smile.

Another powerful indicator in the body language of couples is how they touch - or don’t touch. Whenever you see a couple that is in love, you tend to see them touching each other. You seldom see one partner touching the other partner and the other not responding with a similar touch, or more. If one of the partners reaches out to the other and gets no touch back, there is something wrong with their relationship. Many times, you’ll see a man reach for a woman and she will accept the touch; she won’t return it, however. Or, a woman may wrap herself around a man, trying to get his affection. The man will just look as if she is an appendage. These are signs of a relationship that is not ideal, even unbalanced.

Speaking of balance, body language can sometimes show who has the power. It is said that if a woman regularly puts her arm over the man’s shoulder, she has the power in the relationship.

And, when a man has his hand wrapped around the lower part of a woman’s back, there is a close sexual bond between them. However, if a woman tries to hold a man, or his arm, and he just lets his arm dangle, his is probably not interested in her or her feelings and needs.

Another example of body language between partners is the act of preening or straightening up a partner. If you see either partner always trying to straighten the hair of the other, fix up their clothes, remove blemishes, etc., this is a sign of closeness.

They say that clothes make a person. While this may or may not be true, there is a theory that says that if a couple wears contrasting clothes, they are not compatible or are intentionally dressing to clash with the other. Red, for instance, is the color of extroverts. White is worn by people who want to stand out. Black is worn by those who want to stay in the background (or hide their expending waist).

When a couple sits down together, the way they sit can tell you a lot about the state of their relationship. If they face each other, they are in a positive state; if they face away from each other or are at an angle, there is trouble between them. Also, if they each have closed body language towards each other, this can be a sign that something is wrong. Closed body language includes crossing of arms, keeping hands close, crossing legs and looking down or away.

And, when a couple is walking, does one partner walk ahead or behind? If so, there are some power or domination issues.

And, finally, though you may not observe this about a couple, the way they make love is a key indicator about their relationship. One body language to watch for in making love is whether the eyes of your partner are open or closed. Closed eyes can signify not wanting to look at a partner; of course, it can also just mean that the partner is enjoying her/himself. However, if they are stiff and awkward, there is probably something on that partner’s mind.

Body language is not just a man or woman thing. It also is a consideration when looking at any couple or even your own relationship. By understanding how couple-based body language works, we have a new insight on how romantic partnerships are held together - or torn apart.


November 2nd, 2007

Body Language of the Sexes

Body Language of the Sexes Body language is a broad term for forms of communication using body movements or gestures commonly branded as “body attitudes” instead of, or in addition to, voice communications. In other words, what you can tell about someone’s mood or disposition can be intrepreteted from the expressions on ones face, the way they are standing or sitting, and other subtle gestures.

Often the mannerisms of men and women differ from each other so the advert mix signals when communicating without words - a little advice.

Body Language of Women

Body Language of Women Have you ever been interested in a woman and tried to approach her? You think that she is showing signs that she is interested in you, too. You approach her thinking that your interpretation of her feelings are genuine. As you get closer, however, and go to introduce yourself, she frowns and turns away. You think, did I read her wrong? Chances are you did. And, you did because you are not adept at reading body language. In fact, most men are not. But, not to fear; this article will give you some pointers for your next encounter with the opposite sex.

Body language, sometimes called non-verbal communication, is actually responsible for over 60% of all our human communication. Words are only actually about 7%. And, since men and women communicate differently, you need to know specifically which gender you are trying to read. In fact, women have over three times more area of their brain devoted to reading these types of cues.

So, how do you read a woman’s body language. What indicators can you look for? Well, there are certain key elements to look for that can help you immensely when you want to know what a woman is really communicating, whether the conversation revolve around trust issues or you just want to know if he is flirting with you.

Believe it or not, women are more uptight than men. They are more “closed” in their demeanor. This is the byproduct of generations of conditioning and we can’t judge and say that their ways are wrong. They are just different from men’s.

Our culture raises girls to be more reticent and keep their body “closed”, so to speak. So, what does this mean in practice. Well, women tend to keep their arms close to their bodies. They almost always keep their legs crossed, as well. Even if their legs are not crossed, their knees are touching. Men are different. They take more space and have their legs seldom crossed. They are also loose with their arms. If a man sits on a couch next to a woman, usually, the man puts his arm around her and she, with her arms and legs close to her body, snuggles under the man’s arm.

So, how can this help men in reading a woman’s body language? Well, if you are conversing with a woman and she changes any one of these body cues, watch out. If her arms come away from her body or her legs move apart, she is probably going to be shifting her attitude. She is uncomfortable with something you said or did. Women tend to lean forward when they are conversing. If you are communicating with a women and she leans back, that’s also a sign that she is uncomfortable or getting angry.

When standing, women do not tend to lean as much as men. If they do, they also lean at a very small angle. If a woman leans, or leans at an exaggerated angle, something is changing in her. If she also folds her arms, you should think about what is causing her to change her outward attitude.

When it comes to romance and dating, body language can be critical in determining the success or failure of a date, or your relationship.

If we start with the face, you will notice that women tend to stay focused the face of a person who is talking, watching for emotional cues. So, it is important to stay focused on a woman’s face without seeming to be staring a hole through her.

And, if a woman is interested in you, her eyes will catch yours and she will look at you intensely for a few moments. She may raise her eyebrows but that is more a trait of men. So, when you get that intense and interested gaze, know that there is interest there. And, look for a woman who tries to show you more of her eyes. The whites of a woman’s eyes are something she considers sexy so if she inadvertently looks up and to one side, she is interested in you and exposing more of herself to you. Also, if she finds you interesting, she will move her eyes back and forth from one of your eyes to the other.

Hair is another intimate item that a woman considers sacred. If a women is interested in you, she will immediately think about her appearance; women are conditioned this way. The first thing that many women do, knowing that a man of interest is looking at them, is play with their hair. It may be a finger comb to straighten her hair or a twirling of the end of her hair. She may even flip a piece of her hair up revealing her ear or use her finger to force her hair on one side behind her ear. This opens up the face and allows a man to see more of her. When you see something like this, you definitely have her attention and interest.

Some women will toss their head to one side and throw their hair back. This is a sign that they are interested or looking for attention.

Women consider their skin to be an intimate part, as well. They only show skin on their body if they are interested, and comfortable. Have you ever gone to a restaurant with a female colleague and she takes off her jacket to reveal short sleeves. Then, she begins to talk to you with the palms of her hands and exposed wrists. Well, that is a good sign and you need to recognize what she is saying.

The hips are another area of female body language that is used to show interest in a man (or get attention). If a woman is walking to the bathroom or past your location and she is moving her hips with an exaggerated sway or in a sexy, powerful manner, she is sending a signal to which you must respond.

And, her legs are another powerful communication tool for non-verbal communication. Women tend to cross their legs when they sit. She will tend to turn her knees away from you, initially, because she is not wanting to be forward. But, if she turns her knees towards you, you have entered her intimate zone of trust, and possibly arousal, and you have a green light to pursue intimacy further.

Feet are another area of communication. When standing, if a woman points her feet towards, and even moves one towards you, she is attracted to you. If she is sitting cross-legged and begins to extend the toe of the leg on top towards you, she wants to be close to you. If she let’s her shoe dangle off her foot, that is a clear sign of a desire for intimacy.

So, for men who are trying to understand the body language of women, whether in general or in the realm of flirting, romance and relationships, use some of these guidelines as means to understand what a woman is really saying. She is saying more with her body than with her voice.

Body Language of Men

Body Language of Men There are many differences between men and women. None, however, are more apparent, though, to both sexes, than communication differences. But, there are many different ways in which we communicate. Believe it or not, over 60% of all our communication is done, not through the mouth but, through the body. Body language is the most powerful part of our dialogue with others and the most critical factor in determining what others “hear” about what we are saying.

For women, men can be confusing creatures. They seem simple enough and their body language seems telltale. But, despite their seeming simplicity, men are sometimes hard to read.

There’s the story of a women who asks her husband, “Honey, you wouldn’t cheat on me, would you?” As the husband attempts to answer, she hopes to read his response, from his face to his stance. But, the husband does nothing out of the ordinary. He leans against the well at his usual angle, his face keeps its usual stoic look, his eyes look straight at hers and then down to the ground for a moment as he shakes head. He look up again at her and says, “Of course not, honey, you should know that.” She doesn’t know what to make of this seemingly normal behavior.

So, what should women read from a man’s body language? Well, there are certain key elements to look for that can help a woman know exactly what a man is really communicating, whether the conversation revolve around trust issues or you just want to know if he is flirting with you.

In general, men tend to be more relaxed than women. Because our culture still raises girls to believe that they should be reticent and keep their body closed, women tend to have their arms close to their bodies and their legs crossed. Men, on the other hand, will tend to sit with their legs open and their arms will frequently be draped over the back of a sofa or sticking out to the side. Men also tend to stand with their feet further apart and, when leaning, will lean at a larger angle. If any of this behavior changes, then you know that there is something going on in your man’s mind. He is telling you something with his body that you should be noticing.

And, when it comes to romance and dating, there are certain things that a woman should look for in a man that will help determine his interest or understanding of any messages you are sending.

Starting with the face, you may notice his eyebrows flash. This means that they will raise when his gaze meets yours. They may not stay there but that initial raising means that you have peaked his interest. If you do happen to talk or have a passing conversation, his eyebrows may raise up and stay there and his look may become one of awe or intrigue. He finds you not only very beautiful but very interesting.

His nostrils may flare, as well. This is usually a sign that he has been aroused by you and you are definitely appealing to him at some, or many, levels.

Many men will inadvertently look you over from head to toe (or at least head to breast). They may not mean to be overly sexual but your form may appeal to a man and he wants to “take in” your whole shape. Men love the womanliness of a woman’s body and this is a definite sign of interest. Of course, if his eyes scan your body like a sex-hungry fiend, you can rest assured he has only one thing on his mind. A quick, casual glance, however, is many times done only as a sign of admiration.

Men will also do other things with their bodies or their clothing. Sometimes referred to as preening, you may see a man smooth or mess up his hair as approach. He may straighten his tie, fix his collar or brush dust or lint of his clothes (even if there may be none there).

Have you ever gone into a bar or restaurant and met a man’s gaze? As you do, he reaches up and rubs his face or touches his chin. That is a definite sign of interest because that man is contemplating the feelings that have been aroused inside himself.

When sitting men tend to lean backwards. If a man begins to lean towards you and talk, he has left his comfort zone and is reaching out to you. If he spreads his legs or has them open quite wide, watch out, he is presenting you with all the goods and leaving it up to you to make a decision. He may even perch on the edge of his seat.

Some men will roll up their sleeves or put their hands on their hips when they are sending body messages to a woman. Certain women would find this appealing; some might not. But, is something to watch for.

And, if a man is playing with a cylindrical object such as a glass or a salt shaker, he is thinking about the roundness of the female body and is fantasizing about holding you or your body parts. It’s a good sign, though, that he is interested.

Finally, a man may use his hand to touch you during conversation. While this can be innocent, it is many times used by a man to judge a woman’s response to his touch. If you don’t seem to mind or even touch him back, he will try to get closer, guaranteed.

So, male body language is simpler than a woman’s but still not always easy to decipher. Using some of the guidelines here, you will now have a little more insight into what a man is trying to tell you with his non-verbal communication. Because body language is over 60% of all communication, understanding these cues will help you to understand men and, in couples, hopefully reduce any miscommunications that arise. While not an exact science, body language can unlock a completely new method of understanding men.


October 1st, 2007

Body Language - Eye and Face Contact

Body Language One of the major ways to improve communication is through better eye and face contact. If you do not appear interested or to be listening, communication will definitely not occur. This is true whether or not there is physical attraction.

In order to be more attractive to the opposite sex, you need to maintain good eye and facial contact. You need to look directly at the person when you speak to him or her. You need to smile, look at the person, and not shy away.

Look at the person’s eyes for a few moments, then look at their nose, their mouth, their chin, and then their entire face. All this should take just a few seconds. Then repeat the process. By doing this, you will appear as though you are genuinely listening to the other person. Your interest will show.

For instance, Jeremy was very attracted to Crystal, whom he met at a party. Yet, Jeremy panicked and became shy when he realized he was interested in her. During their conversation, instead of ooking directly at her, he looked down and off to the side, which made him appear as ifhe definitely was not interested in her. When Jeremy did manage to look at her, his head was cocked at an angle, which also gave the impression he didn’t really care about her.

On top of that, Jeremy appeared to be paying more attention to Crystal’s hands than to her face. In reality, Jeremy wasn’t even thinking about her hands. Yet, he was so uncomfortable and had such poor eye contact that he just zeroed in on her hands, which was a total turn-off to Crystal who quickly ended their acquaintance and walked away.

Lack of eye contact is a typically male trait that can be changed; what happened to Jeremy does not have to happen to you. Yet, communication should also go beyond the face and eyes, as the voice and body also convey rejection or acceptance.


July 11th, 2007

Romantic Gestures

The Best Romantic Gestures Romantic Gestures It is often the small, unexpected romantic gestures that mean the very most in a relationship. By keeping the element of romantic surprise in your relationship, you are keeping your relationship exciting and interesting. When couples get too settled in their ways and too predictable, it can be boring. It is important to keep the fire of love burning between you and your partner, by doing unexpected romantic gestures occasionally. For woman, receiving flowers by surprise from their boyfriend is very romantic. Flowers are a perfect expression of love and passion, as they are delicate, vibrant and fragrant. To have flowers arrive at your work from the love of your life tells you that he loves you and wants the world to know. That is a very exciting and passionate message to receive!

Also, to be taken out for lunch by your loved one by surprise is very nice. This says that your partner loves you anytime, even in the middle of a workday. Of course people’s schedules are busy with their work on occasion, but even to try to meet your loved one for lunch once every few weeks if possible says a lot to them.

Another very romantic gesture is to make a delicious homemade dinner for your partner. Perhaps sometime you can plan this when your partner least expects it and they will be so impressed that you took the time to make such a nice meal for them. Too often, couples take it for granted that their partner makes dinner for them most of the time and they don’t show that they appreciate it, or do they reciprocate the gesture. If you are one of these people who come home to a good meal that your partner makes most of the time, it is your turn to do this for them. Nobody wants to be the giver all the time. Sometimes, one needs to be the receiver of thoughtfulness and love. Be to your partner all the good things that they are to you. A relationship will be more successful if there is bal Another thing that you should know is that woman love desserts! With this in mind, you may want to consider surprising your girlfriend by taking her out for a decadent dessert somewhere or buying one to have at home together with a bottle of wine. This would be an after dinner surprise and a well received one I am sure.

Another fun and romantic gesture is to go out to a beach somewhere and have a picnic together. Bring a blanket, some great food and a bottle of wine. This is definitely an idea that will enhance the passion in your relationship. There is just something about being near the water with your loved one, on secluded beach on a summer night. I assure you that a picnic on a beach will make the fire of love burn brightly for both of you.

In general, romantic surprises are exciting for every couple. Be creative and spontaneous and make sure that what you do is a gesture of love from the heart.

The response will always be a good one, if you are with the right person. True love is enhanced when couples express their true selves to each other in various romantic ways. Let love guide you to bringing your relationship to an even higher level of passion.


July 8th, 2007

Body Language First Date

Body Language First Date Body Language If you really enjoy meeting people but tend to get nervous in social settings, there are a few things you can do to improve your situation. Above all, you must generate a positive attitude about it. If you think of socializing as stressful and difficult, others will sense that and be reluctant to approach you. Transmit confidence with positive body language and facial expressions. Stand up straight-don’t slouch. Make brief eye contact (not a blatant stare) instead of turning away or looking at the floor. If you get nervous, encourage contact and conversation by carrying a prop such as a book or magazine or an eye-catching accessory. Such an item will give others with common interests a reason to come over and talk to you.

Nervous people tend to sag their shoulders, lock their arms tightly around their bodies, stand rigidly, and stare at the ground or dart their eyes around. Confident people have an open stance, make eye contact, and lean toward the person they’re talking to. If close enough, they often show interest by lightly brushing your arm or shoulder to make a point.

Another way to be approachable, even if your heart is pounding with anxiety, is just to breathe deeply and smile. It’s hard to feel negative when there’s a smile on your face. The smile is a universal symbol of friendship and it draws people to you. Smile often and (as the old song says) the whole world will smile with you!

Body language can turn people away but it can also invites them to approach you. Some “do’s” and “don’ts”.

Don’ts:

  • Lack of eye contact
  • Continual throat-clearing
  • Covering mouth with hands
  • Tugging at clothes
  • Jingling things in pockets
  • Fidgeting with accessories or clothes
  • Hand-wringing
  • Frowning or grimacing
  • Stepping backward or away

Do’s

  • Steady eye contact
  • Smiling
  • Leaning toward a person
  • Sitting on the edge of a chair
  • Periodic hand-to-face gestures
  • Moistening or licking lips
  • Watching someone else’s mouth as he talks
  • Arms at sides, as opposed to crossed
  • Brief physical contact (nonsexual)
  • Pointing arms, legs, or feet or all of the body toward a person

June 5th, 2007

Expressions of Love in Relationships

Expressions of Love in Relationships What is love? Love can have so many different definitions to people that it is difficult to come up with one that everyone agrees on. How a person defines love depends on who they are and what experiences they have had regarding love in their life. Some people have had positive love experiences while others have had negative ones. How a person perceives love, affects how they express love. Let’s look at some different expressions of love.

Expressions of Love in Relationships Assuming that a person has had positive experiences regarding love, they will express it in many romantic ways. For example, the expression of love through physical intimacy is very well received. Hugs, kisses, hand holding and more all express love in romantic and intimate ways.

Romantic gestures are another popular way to express love. Types of romantic gestures, which a person considers loving depends on the person. For example,

A couple could be walking on the beach together and it may be very windy and cold. One person may take off their coat and give it to the other person to stay warm and this would be a romantic expression of love. Another situation may be where one person gets home from work earlier than the other and starts to make a nice meal for both of them. Some people may say, so what, while others will acknowledge this as an expression of love for the other person.

People shouldn’t overlook small expressions of love which they experience everyday. Sometimes life gets busy and we forget to show appreciation to our partner for the small and big ways that they express their love to us. We should really take nothing for granted when it comes to such things. It is often the little things, which mean a lot to us, and we should always make an effort to show our appreciation and love toward our partner for these things. Even something as small as packing your partner a lunch, is an expression of love that should not be taken for granted.

Sometimes when we are having a stressful or busy day, our partner may take the time to call and say that they love you and this could brighten your day. It is the small things like this that help a person cope with the ups and downs in daily life. An expression of love from our partner strengthens us and energizes us so that we can deal with whatever happens in the course of the day.

Expressions of love are all about showing appreciation for your partner being in your life in different ways. A person will feel more at peace day to day if they practice being thankful for the love in their life. Love makes life so much sweeter and meaningful it seems. It is good to express love in thoughtful and caring ways each day. Your romantic relationship will be nurtured by spontaneous expressions of love!


May 9th, 2007

Different Ways of Expressing Love

Different Ways of Expressing Love When you are in love with someone it is good to think of new and exciting ways to express your feelings for them. Creative expression of love makes for an interesting and fun relationship. Let’s look at the many ways of expressing love.

Different Ways of Expressing Love Love can be expressed in various ways ranging from physical expressions of love to loving words or gestures. Hugs and holding hands are simple yet meaningful ways to show your partner that you love them. Just putting your arm around the person that you care about means so much. Not to mention how a kiss makes a person feel. So much love can be expressed in a kiss.

Often just a glance can tell a person that you love them. There is a certain look in a person’s eyes when they are in love and it is very obvious. It is almost a dreamy look of total bliss and peace. A smile can say a lot too. Even a wink is a way to express to someone that you are attracted to him or her. Winking is a sort of sexy and mysterious gesture, which leaves a person wondering what the other person is thinking. When a wink is combined with a smile, it can be a very powerful way to tell someone that you are interested and attracted. Body language plays a big part in expressing attraction for another person.

With regard to loving gestures, there are many things a person can do to express their love for a person. Love notes, sexy voicemail messages, cards and letters are all some of the popular ways to express love. Also, a person can do loving things like make a romantic meal or picnic for their loved one. Everyone loves good food combined with a romantic setting if possible. Sometimes just to go somewhere romantic to talk is nice, like a park, wooded trail or near a lake or beach. It is always romantic to sit by the water together and just hug each other or talk.

Going out on a romantic date is a good way to express love for a person. Take your partner to their favorite restaurant and enjoy some great food together with a glass of wine and a fancy dessert! Make your lover some cookies or their favorite pie and sit and talk while having pie and coffee or cookies and milk. There are many romantic things you can do with your lover involving good food and drinks. Be creative and see what happens. Make your partner a smoothie or a milkshake and watch a movie at home together. Make some popcorn or buy a bunch of your favorite candy together to eat while watching your favorite television show together.

Decorate the bedroom with flowers and candles and play some soft music. Cuddle up on the bed or couch together. Share some quality time with the person that you love. All these things show your partner that you love them. Take time for your relationship. Make time for each other and nurture the love you share. Let your creative side run wild as you express all the ways that you love your partner!


May 6th, 2007

Writing Love Notes

Writing Love Notes Often, it is the small loving gestures that mean the most in relationships. It takes only a few minutes to make a lasting impression for the one you love. One of the most meaningful ways to make a romantic impression is to write a love note. There are many creative ways to write love notes.

Writing Love Notes Notes to your loved one can take many forms, ranging from text messaging the traditional hand written note. Also, emails and chat are great ways to express your love. The key is to make your message something meaningful and romantic and place it somewhere creative. For instance, you can write a note to your partner and put it on the bathroom mirror or in the fridge. Maybe you could even place a note in their lunch that they are going to take to work.

Be creative in your presentation of your message to your loved one. If you are writing a hand written note, use colorful paper or do a little drawing to accompany your words. Little things like this show your partner that you will go that extra mile to put a smile on their face. You might even spray a little perfume or cologne on the paper that you write the note on for that added sensual touch!

Another fun place to put a note is in your partner’s shoe or on the seat of their car. If the car is locked, place the note under the windshield wiper but be sure it is visible. They may think it is a parking ticket but will be pleasantly surprised when they find it is a love note.

Another good place to put a note is in your loved one’s pocket or on their pillow. A note placed on the bed with a rose next to it is extremely romantic! Woman love flowers and it is the finishing touch to place a flower next to your note to them. To be even more romantic, you may want to buy some massage oil and leave that next to the note on the bed. That will certainly say a lot!

Love poems are also very romantic. If you are poetic, write your loved one a poem from your heart, expressing your love for them. This will be well received for sure, as it is a very passionate gesture. Poetry and love notes go together very well.

Chocolates are also a great gift to accompany a romantic note. Women love chocolate and if you combine chocolate with flowers and a note you may experience the most passionate response ever! If you wrote your loved one a poem, you may want to consider reading it to them yourself, just to add that personal touch to the presentation of it.

Never under-estimate the power of expressing your love for your partner in the form of a note. Your loved one may be having a bad day and your note might be just want they need to brighten up their mood. You can’t go wrong with such a romantic gesture. Be creative and express your passionate feelings. If notes are not for you, just take the time to tell your partner that you love them. Loving words and a warm hug can mean so much!


May 5th, 2007

Type of Hugs

Hug Types There are so many types of hugs that it is hard to know where to start in explaining their differences. So many variables affect the types of a hug that people give each other. For instance, people’s height, weight, age and their relationship, all determine the kinds of hugs that they give each other. Not to mention whether the huggers are men, women, friends or lovers!

Hug Types First, there is the friendly hug. This type of hug usually happens between friends of either the opposite or the same sex. Family members also give each other these types of hugs. It is a caring, yet short embrace and may or may not involve a kiss on the cheek, depending on the situation and who the people are to each other. Generally, family member hugs include a kiss on the cheek but not always. If a younger person is hugging a senior relative or friend, the younger person often kisses the older person on the cheek. The kiss on the cheek is both a sign of respect and friendly caring or affection. The older people may also kiss the younger person on the cheek, or forehead. These types of hugs are usually done while standing or sitting down.

Next, we have the romantic hug, which is for lovers! This hug is a close and extended embrace that expresses love and passion for each other. It is almost always accompanied by kissing, which may also be very close and extended. The romantic hug is sexy and usually leads to even further intimacy and romance. This can be a hug that happens while standing up, sitting down or lying down together. The closer the better for romantic hugs!

We also have the hug that expresses that you have missed someone. This is like the friendly hug, but it usually last longer and may even involve the two people jumping up and down together or swinging each other around in circles. If you want to see examples of this kind of hugging, just go to the airport and observe people as they reunite in the arrival area. Much the same type of hugging will take place in the departure area in an airport. To hug someone before they leave on a trip or when they return from a trip, is very sentimental and makes a lasting impression on both people.

Another kind of hug is one that people give each other as a form of congratulations after an achievement. For example, when someone has a birthday or a graduation it is not uncommon to give them a hug for congratulations. Hugs are a warm and friendly way to express appreciation of another person. The embrace of another person expresses a certain feeling of union and caring. A hug can lift a person’s spirits and put a smile on their face. Be open to the joy of giving and receiving hugs as they serve as a meaningful form of human contact and expression.


April 30th, 2007

Power of Body Language

Power of Body Language Body language combined with effective verbal communication can be a powerful way to attract a person. If a man or women uses their body to sensually express their attraction, combined with saying the right things, a new relationship could evolve. One should never underestimate the sensual power of body language.

Power of Body Language One of the most powerful forms of body language involves the eyes. They say that the eyes reveal a person’s soul, and this is very true. When you look into someone’s eyes, you see a glimpse of the spirit of a person. When two people look into each other’s eyes a certain spiritual energy is exchanged. Human eyes can say so much. A glance can sometimes say it all. If there is a strong attraction between two people, the eyes reveal this powerful message.

Sometimes it is just the way a person moves that can be attractive to a person. Maybe it is the way a person stands or the way they walk which is sexy. Often people have their own unique gestures that are luring. A certain laugh or a unique smile can be very sexy.

Everyone has a presence about them that makes them different from everyone else and it is this blend of gestures and mannerisms that make them who they are and makes them attractive to others.

People often express themselves with their hands when they are talking and this can make a strong impression on a person. Hand gestures combined with expressive tone in conversation can make a person very animated and interesting to other people. When hand gestures and conversations are combined with smiles and laughter, a person can become very attractive to others.

Fingers and Toes can be sexy too. If you are talking to someone and they are playing with their hair with their fingers, they are sensually saying that they are attracted. Ladies footwear that exposes the toes can be very attractive. There is something about seeing toes with a bright colored polish, which is often sexy to a man. Toe rings can be a sexy touch too. When a woman’s foot looks this way and she crosses her legs and moves her foot in a sensual way, it can often get a man’s full attention.

When dancing, people can use their body language very effectively as they move to the music in each other’s embrace. The gentle sway of the hips combined with the swishing of long hair and the sensual motion of arms, hands and feet can be very sexy. Sometimes the way a person holds their glass when they are drinking something is sensual. Also, watch how a person drinks something. A person’s lips are one of the sexiest parts of their body. Let all your senses awaken and be stimulated by the power of body language!


April 17th, 2007

Clothing can tell a lot about a person

Clothing can tell a lot about a person You can usually tell a lot about a person by the clothing that they wear. A person’s clothing is often a medium of communication, expressing style and personality type. So much gets said through color, style, fit and fabric of clothes. The clothing is only one part of the message that gets conveyed. It is a person’s body language, while in the clothing that expresses the most about them.

Clothing can tell a lot about a person Some more extraverted people like to wear bright colored clothing, which draws attention. These people shine with confidence and passion for life and all the things that compose it. People who wear bright colors are usually outgoing and embrace each moment fully.

On the other hand, there are some people who like to wear dark colors. They are usually more introverted, silent types who think deeply about things. People who wear dark colors tend to have an aura of mystery about them, which can be very luring. People who wear dark colors tend to be very interesting people as they have so many dimensions to their personality.

People who wear clothing that hide much of their body are usually very shy people. They cover themselves up as much as possible and also tend to be very quite and secretive. Like people who wear dark colors, they have a certain mysterious quality about them, which attracts people’s interest and curiosity about them.

Also, there are the extraverted types of people who wear short and revealing clothing to attract people. Dressing provocatively in this way is often a risk. Women need to be prepared for the responses that they may get from dressing in this manner.

Often, clothing expresses people’s inner personality, which may be otherwise hidden. Secrets about a person’s true spirit get revealed through the clothes they wear. For example, leather and denim can say a lot, especially if combined body piercing, tattoos and artistic colorful hairstyles. Jewelry can also add a lot to the message that clothing conveys.

Not only does clothing itself say a lot about a person, but the fit of the clothing express a message too. For example, someone who wears tight or form-fitting clothing is generally a confident person who takes pride in the shape of his or her body. In contrast, a person whose clothes fit loosely may be the opposite type of person.

There is also the outlook that people should not be judged by the clothing that they wear, as their clothes may simply reflect their own financial limitations and not their personality. The key is to take all variables into consideration when we see someone. Clothing may say everything or sometimes nothing at all. It is the person under the clothes that matters most. Listen to how silence communicates. You may be surprised what you hear and what you learn about a person.


April 7th, 2007

Saying I Love You

Saying I Love You Telling someone “I love you” can have a big impact on a relationship. Generally, these three words take a couple to a higher level, which is more satisfying in many capacities. On the other hand, the topic of love can negatively impact a relationship, if both people don’t feel the same way. It is just a risk a person needs to take when they express their love to another person in a relationship. Very often it is a risk well worth taking.

Saying I Love You Two important factors to consider before saying, “I love you” are sincerity and timing. It is so important to be honest when you tell someone you are in love with him or her, as you don’t want to hurt their feelings. To pretend to love someone for the purpose of gaining something from them is wrong. Timing is another important variable. Try to pick the right time and place when expressing your feelings of love, as this may have everything to do with the response that you get. For example maybe a personal intimate moment is a better time to say “I love you” than when you are both shopping in the grocery store for laundry detergent and toilet paper. Trust your own heart on knowing when the time and place is right.

Some people find it easy to say, “I love you” while others have a real battle with it. Being inhibited or feeling shy about expressing feelings of love is very common in relationships. There is often a fear of rejection in these cases. Even though someone may have difficulty saying the words, they often express their love in various other ways, which can often speak louder than words. So, it is important to be open to the various ways that love can be expressed to another person.

Love is a beautiful emotion to feel for another person and the expression of love can be just as beautiful. Be creative in how you tell your partner that you love them. Those three words can be accompanied by various loving gestures which can make the moment together that much more meaningful. Be yourself and express your love in a personal and romantic way. If you are with the right person, your feelings of love will be mirrored back to you from your partner in an equal and opposite strength. True love when it is mutual, is very powerful and amazing!

Let love be in your actions and in the caring and thoughtful things that you do for your partner. Sometimes the most basic expressions of love are the ones that mean the most in a relationship. It is often the little things that matter most in a loving relationship. Be free in the mediums in which you express your love. There is no limit in the ways that love can be expressed between two people. Relax and let your heart guide you on your journey toward deeper love with your partner.


March 22nd, 2007

Romantic Gestures

Romantic GesturesThere are many romantic gestures that couples can do for each other to put some extra passion into their relationship. It is often the small things that mean the most when it comes to expression of love. You don’t have to spend a lot of money, just be creative and thoughtful!

Romantic GesturesFirst of all, compliments go a long way! Sometimes just to tell your loved one that they look good means so much. Everyone wants to feel attractive to the person that they are in a relationship with and a small compliment can go a long way in boosting self-esteem and security in the relationship.

Another thing that is well received in a relationship is hand written letters, cards and notes to your significant other. Personal gestures like these show your loved one that you love them enough to go the extra mile to express your affection to them in creative and personalized ways. The fun part of doing this sort of thing is that you get to hide or position these loving notes in creative places to get the attention of your partner. Perhaps you can stick a note in your partner’s lunch bag or pocket or even on their pillow. You might want to add the extra touch of passion and spray a fragrance on this letter, card or note. Scents are very passionate and suggestive and make a big impression on the person you love.

Pampering is also a very romantic thing to do for your loved one. For instance, surprise your partner some night after they get home from work. Have a special dinner made for them or order some food in. Set the table in a romantic way including a nice flower and some dinner candles. Decorate the bathroom with candles and have a hot bath ready, complete with bubble bath and soft music playing. Put rose petals on the floor, leading to the bedroom and into the bed. Burn scented oil, which will set the mood for romance such as jasmine or vanilla oil. Buy some colorful new towels to brighten up the bathroom. Sometimes a few new colorful additions can brighten up a room and make a big impression!

Another thing that makes a big impact is a decadent dessert. Maybe you can get a fancy cheesecake from a nearby bakery and enjoy a fancy dessert together in candlelight. If you are having a cheesecake or another fancy cake, cut a decent sized slice and put it in the center of a big plate. Decorate the dessert and plate with whip cream and chocolate or butterscotch sauce. Squeeze the sauce into creative swirls on the dessert plate. It will look outstanding and your partner will be so impressed. You may even want to make a couple specialty coffees to go with this dessert. Irish Cream or Kahlua make fine additions to a fresh coffee. Top the coffee with a bit of whip cream and a touch of cinnamon. Cinnamon will bring that extra touch of passion into the evening. Be creative and have fun and romance will fill the air!


March 17th, 2007

Body Language Flirting

Body Language FlirtingHow can you tell if someone is flirting with you? Body language says a lot when it comes to flirtation. Just watch a person’s eyes, lips, face, hands and legs to observe all the ways in which they are attracting the person that they like with their body gestures.

Body Language FlirtingThe most effective way to flirt is with the eyes. So much can be said by how someone looks at someone. Does a person stare or give a loving gaze and look away. A person’s eyes are windows to the soul and they can express so much without words. A person’s pupils even change depending on how interested they are in what they are looking at. For instance, a person’s pupils have been known to dilate if they are interested and contact if they are not. This is just something a person can observe if they want to assess someone’s interest in them.

Also, women often use their hair as a way to flirt with someone who they are interested in. If a woman wants to get the attention of someone they like, they will often play with their hair. Men fall for this too, as there is often nothing as sexy as a woman playing with her hair in front of him.

Face and mouth play a big part in flirting too. For example a warm, interested smile is usually very luring and attractive. People are drawn to sexy facial expressions. A person’s mouth is so expressive too, both by how it looks and what comes out of it.

Hands and arms can be sexy also when someone is flirting. If a certain part of a person’s arm is exposed, it conveys a feeling of openness. On the other hand, if a person’s arms are folded or crossed, they are making themselves unapproachable through their body language. If a person is close to another people who they are flirting with, they may want to casually touch that person throughout their conversation with them. Keep in mind that any light caresses express sexual desire. Men and women each have areas of their body, which are more sensual than others. A person needs to decide where they should touch another person in public so that they can flirt effectively yet discretely.

Legs are also very effectively used in flirting. If a woman crosses her legs for instance, this can be very sexy. Men on the other hand, should not cross their legs. If a man and woman are sitting close to each other without their legs crossed, this can appear very sexy and luring.

Finally, it is important to stay playful. For instance, a flirting woman may play with her jewelry while talking to a man. Sometimes she will play with her beverage or play with something on the table where she is sitting. Watch and observe body language, as it says it all!


March 11th, 2007

Is There A Right Time To Say I Love You?

Right Time To Say I Love YouIs there a right time to say I love you when in a relationship? The quick answer is no there isn’t. The truth is, each relationship is unique and so what is right for one couple may not be right for another. Before jumping into saying those magical three words to someone you are in a relationship with, you should consider a few things.

Right Time To Say I Love YouFirst of all, since loving someone is a very serious and meaningful emotion, a person will want to make sure that they do actually love that person. One must be very careful not to say they love someone just because it may sound nice or to achieve certain objectives in the relationship. For instance, feeling a sort of pressure to express feelings of love for a person is not romantic at all and can be hurtful in fact. Expressions of love should come from a person’s heart in a very genuine sense. In addition, to say you love someone to gain something in the relationship relating to sexuality or money is simply wrong.

Secondly, if you tell someone that you love them, you must be prepared for a variety of responses. If the person you love does not express their loving feelings back, don’t jump to conclusions. You should expect a person to not respond right away perhaps. On the other hand, you can also expect a person to reciprocate right away. It could really go either way and you need to prepare for either response. It is important to note the difference between reciprocating in a genuine sense and reciprocating due to feeling obliged to. Hopefully, all expressions of loving feelings will be honest and from the heart.

Something else to consider is the method in which love is expressed to the other person.

There are so many mediums in which to tell a person that you love them. For instance, you can write love notes, emails, letters or text messages. Also, gestures such as giving gifts or flowers, dining out, going to movies or theatres all express love for another person in various ways. There are endless methods to express love for another person and it is up to you to be creative and select the right ways to express yourself in your relationship.

In addition to telling someone that you love them, you should be prepared to share with them the reasons why you love them. To give some details like this will confirm to the other person that they are important to you and that you are sincerely in love with them. Perhaps you love their smile, their touch or the way they laugh. Little things that make a person love someone is special and should be made known to your loved one.

Finally, when the word is out that you love someone, you should be prepared for what might follow. Are you ready for the relationship to move to the next level? Emotionally, or physically expressing love for another person means that you enter into a realm of higher feelings and thoughts about another person. In general, true love changes people for the better and you need to prepare yourself for the beautiful and meaningful journey that you are about to take.


March 5th, 2007

Dating and Public Displays of Affection

Public Displays of AffectionIs hugging, kissing or the holding of hands in public acceptable behavior or not on a date? There are various views on public displays of affection, depending on the personalities of the people involved. Some people are very private and don’t like being romantic in public, while other people are very extraverted and enjoy openly express their affection in public. When on a date, it is important to be respectful your partner’s feelings about such things so that you do not embarrass them or make them feel uncomfortable.

Public Displays of AffectionPrivate people are usually very sensitive to public displays of affection. Let’s say for instance a man is walking down the street with his girlfriend, who is a private person and suddenly he stops and tries to kiss her in public. Most likely, in this case, the girl will push her boyfriend away, as she does not want to kiss him in front of people on the street. This sense of self-consciousness may be rooted in some previous negative experience from her past. With this in mind, the girl’s boyfriend should respect his girlfriend’s private nature and save his romantic expressions for when they are in a private place.

Extraverted people are very expressive in public as a general rule. When an extraverted man woman is with a private man, some interesting things may happen. For instance, the woman may reach out to hold her boyfriend’s hand in public and he might avoid her hand. In such a situation, a woman must understand her boyfriend’s private nature and not push him into a public display of affection. A woman’s feelings may get hurt if she wrongly interprets her man’s introverted nature and thinks that he does not want to be with her. To know the difference between the two situations may require time and understanding within the relationship.

Another situation arises when an introvert dates an introvert. In a case like this, nobody makes any romantic gestures toward the other in public and both people are happy and content with expressing themselves in private. Two people of similar personality generally get a long very well without the need to explain themselves to the other all the time.

On the other hand, when two extroverted people date each other, there can be a lot of romance being displayed in public places. Extroverted people freely express themselves openly without any concern for what other people think. One never knows what you might see happen in public in such situations.

Finally, true love can take a couple to a zone or a place where they are oblivious to the world and don’t care what people think around them when it comes to public displays of affection. Some of the most random and spontaneous expressions of love can be the most meaningful to a relationship and nothing should prevent that expression. Feeling inhibited only deprives couples of feeling the true depth of love that they are meant to experience. Be free and express the love you feel to your partner regardless of where you are! Love is so important that expressions of it should flow freely.


February 23rd, 2007

To Love with a Purpose

Love with a PurposeWhat does your relationship mean to you? Are you with your partner out of love or out of habit? Are you staying in your current relationship out of genuine love or have you just settled for the relationship you are in? These are important things to ask yourself as you decide whether or not you love your partner with a purpose. Let’s consider the meaning of love and what its purpose may be.

Love with a PurposeIn the beginning when boys and girls first become attracted to each other, it is very often out of curiosity, chemistry and physical attraction. As time goes on, it seems that the purpose of having a boyfriend or girlfriend changes as we yearn for deeper forms of attraction. As a person matures there is often an increase need intellectual attraction. One of the purposes of love is to be nurtured by someone’s thoughts in addition to being attracted to them physically. Especially as a person gets older and starts to lose their youthful beauty, a higher emphasis is placed on personality and intellectual stimulation in their loving relationship. To love the mind is equally as important as to love the body.

Sometimes being in a loving relationship serves the function of providing company and companionship to each other. As a person gets older they often don’t want to be alone and therefore to be in a relationship is a way to avoid being lonely. A person should consider though whether or not they want another human being in their life for companionship or if a dog or cat will serve the same purpose. To want companionship is ok but it is important to want the whole package, which a loving relationship provides. The more two people mean to each other in a relationship the better the love is. To love deeply is to live deeply which is a blessing is meant to be fully enjoyed.

Some couples are in a loving relationship for the purpose of sharing their financial obligations. It is often an economical decision to live with someone or maybe even marry them. This sort of thing is fine providing that the love is the dominant binding force and not the economic bonuses. To be in a strictly financially beneficial relationship and not be in love is a bad thing, which will eventually cause unhappiness.

Creating a family together is yet another purpose of love. It is nice to be able to have a daughter or a son together and have the joy to raise them as a couple. To create life is a miracle and gives ultimate meaning to a loving relationship. It can be such a joy to create a child or two with the person who you love deeply with all your heart. Even if a couple cannot have children, adoption can be equally meaningful. Yet some couples find deep love just amongst themselves.

Finally, love means so many different things to so many people. The key is to make sure that your definition of love is one of great meaning to you. It is important to love with a purpose and embrace all that this powerful emotion has to give a happy couple. To love and be loved is so basic, yet it is such a strong need in this world. Don’t love by chance; love with purpose and experience one of the greatest joys in life.


February 17th, 2007

The Kiss That Says it All

Male BondingDo you remember your first kiss? It will either be something you want to remember or something you want to forget it seems. First expressions of innocent romance often bring back a combination of feelings for different people. Usually it is a feeling of embarrassment, self-consciousness or immature love that surfaces. On the other hand, it could be the fondest memory of your whole life, depending on the impact the kiss made on you. Let’s have a look at what composes the kiss and what kinds of kisses are out there.

New LoveFirst there is the etiquette thing, who kisses who and when? Should the man initiate the kiss or the woman or do they somehow just meet in between. Can anyone remember or does anyone care? Maybe the focus is more the kiss itself, rather than how it was initiated.

To kiss is like ringing the doorbell on the house of love to see if anyone is home. When you are with the right person, your kiss brings a flood of passion into your hearts. On the other hand, when you are with the wrong person, a kiss can make you pull back like you just stepped on something the dog did in the grass. Kisses are just like that, either they say so much or perhaps nothing at all.Have you ever kissed someone and found it to be one of the slimiest experiences you ever had? Then there are the kisses where the people’s lips are so puckered that you feel like they are impersonating some sort of fish, rather than kissing you. Then we have the pressure kisses, where you feel like the person is trying to push into the next dimension via your face. Kisses are a very personal expression of romance and they say everything you need to know. So next time you kiss someone, let yourself experience the message it is tells you. You may either decide to marry this person or run for the hills.

So in a way, kisses are like a mirror to a person’s romantic soul. We should observe what we see in this mirror when we are engaged in a kiss. Do you see a future with this person? Is there a reflection of the romance that you feel for them in their kiss? Perceive the love that can be felt from something as innocent as a kiss.


February 11th, 2007

Saying I Love You

Saying I Love YouDoes your partner have trouble saying I love you? Many men have trouble with the whole concept. The interesting thing about this, however, is that different types of men see love in different ways. A woman has to listen to not only what a man says (or doesn’t say) but what kind of man is saying it.

I Love YouFor most men, saying the three special words “I Love You” is like baring their entire souls. They feel that they are giving power to the woman and men hate to have their power taken. To men, power, especially external power, is their survival mechanism. This is, undoubtedly, a primitive instinct in men, coming from thousands of years of being in a hunter/gatherer role.

There is a sense of permanency in a man, as well. When they say, I love you, they mean it for life. This is part of a man’s view of the world. Men see the world as a place to build strong foundations for them and a family. That provider instinct makes