Seniors Guides
There is no such thing as being too old to be in love. There was a couple that recently married and they were both over 70 years old. A person is only as old or as limited as they believe to be. If a person feels old, chances are they act old and really look old too. On the other hand, an older man or woman can have the romantic heart and mind of a teenager and look much younger than they are. It is all about attitude really.
The key is to be light-hearted in your day to day life as a senior. One should never take things too seriously, as this sort of attitude ages people beyond their years. It is the light-hearted seniors who attract people to them not the ones who worry all the time and take everything too seriously. Those who are light-hearted draw love into their lives, regardless of a person’s age. Age is secondary to the inner happy spirit of a person.
If you are a senior who wants to fall in love, here is how you do it. You need to be able to laugh both at yourself and at others. Maintain a joyful inner and outer personality. Being joyful means having the ability to focus on the positive aspects of life rather than the negative ones. This does not mean pretending the negative aspects of life do not exist but rather to acknowledge negativity and move on to more positive things. Attitude is everything. It is not so much what happens to you but rather how you deal with what happens.
Love and romance is out there for everyone who seeks it. It is just a matter of doing those things, which draw love and romance into your life. As a senior it may be too easy to just keep to yourself and not go out much. Staying alone most of the time is not very socially stimulating. Chances are if you keep to yourself too much you will not be happy and will not find the love and romance that you are looking for.
The most important thing is to stay active everyday as a senior. Make a point of getting out to do something at least once a day if even for only 20 minutes. If you get out for a walk daily for example, you will stay healthy and alert and may even meet someone while you are out. Maybe you can go out somewhere for a coffee or tea daily and meet some friends. Social life is important for everyone, especially for a senior. It is always good to get out for a while and talk to people.
Many seniors enjoy eating out and this is another opportunity to meet and socialize with people. Try eating out at a new restaurant every couple weeks. It is always fun to try new places to eat. Family diner type places are often good as the food is inexpensive and very good and there are often many regulars who eat at the same place all the time. You may even meet a group of seniors who meet regularly to socialize and you may want to join this group of new friends.
The sky is the limit for seniors who want to encourage love and romance to come into their lives. Do things, meet people, socialize, go for walks or just go out for fun. There are so many interesting things to do. Look in the newspaper and see what is going on in your town or city. You may want to go out to a concert with friends or even go to the theatre. The world is a big place and there are lots of things to do, so enjoy it no matter what your age! Who knows, you may even fall in love!
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Remember a few years ago when there was a T-shirt available with a printed slogan that proclaimed “I am not a dirty old man, I’m a sexy senior citizen!” Today the slogan is even more relevant to seniors than in the past. With the advent of erectile dysfunction drugs, plastic surgery interventions to retain a youthful appearance and online dating opportunities for seniors an active sex life is something that more seniors are enjoying.
Recent news articles have touted the “sexual revolution” taking place at senior housing complexes where sex toy parties are now as commonplace as Tupperware gatherings. The results of a May 2005 landmark study on “Sexuality in Midlife and Beyond” conducted by AARP reveals that a healthy, satisfying sex life is considered a critical aspect of a good relationship by 60% of seniors who responded to the survey, up from 55% in 1999.
Although there are a number of benefits to sex after 60, there are a number of concerns as well. Incidents of Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are on the rise in senior communities. Genital herpes and human papilloma virus (the virus now known to cause cervical cancer) are now commonly diagnosed in sexually active seniors. Even more frightening, older adults are one of the fastest-growing groups being infected with HIV/AIDS. Often the symptoms of these diseases go undetected and untreated in seniors either because the senior does not recognize and report the symptoms they are experiencing or because their doctor just doesn’t consider the possibility that the senior might be sexually active.
If you are a sexually active senior it is vital to your health and wellbeing that you attend to your sexual health by taking the following actions:
- ALWAYS use a condom during oral sex, anal sex and intercourse. Condoms provide a barrier against many sexually transmitted diseases including HIV/AIDS. Be sure the condom is properly fitted and is made of the latex or polyurethane.
- Be sure that any lubricants used during sexual activity are safe to use with condoms and are water-based rather than oil based. Oil based lubricants break down latex condoms. Vaseline and cold cream are NOT safe lubricants to use with condoms.
- Schedule a visit with your doctor. Inform the physician that you are sexually active and ask that you be examined and tested for sexually transmitted diseases if you have been practicing unsafe sex.
- Examine your own genitalia on a monthly basis to notice any rashes, discharge, and breaks in the skin, rough spots or sore spots. Report any changes that you find to your doctor.
- If you notice any health changes such as symptoms of dementia, pneumonia or sudden weight loss notify your doctor and be sure to remind him/her that you are sexually active. Since symptoms associated with HIV/AIDS are similar to those related to aging the physician may not diagnose you properly without knowing your sexual history.
By all means, know that it is perfectly okay to enjoy sexual activity well into your senior years as long as you take the proper precautions. Enjoying intimacy with another helps to keep you limber, makes you feel vital, vibrant and attractive, and reduces stress. Now go forth and flirt a little!
Wellness: Sexuality
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“I still love you, I am just not sure that I like you anymore!” These sad words are sometimes exchanged by life partners who have endured together over the decades. You can finish his sentences, but no longer consider this ability as something mystical like you did when you were young. You can predict her every reaction, but you are bored, not comforted by the fact that there are no surprises left in your relationship. If this describes the internal workings of your seemingly happy and stable marriage, it might be time to shake things up a bit. It may be time to rekindle a truly intimate relationship with your mate.
Cultivating a renewed sense of intimacy and excitement in a seasoned relationship is not as difficult as it might sound. The primary rule to remember is that true intimacy needs to be fostered in three areas; the physical, the spiritual and the mental/emotional realms. You can address these realms in any order, or simultaneously if you wish, to build a more intimate and loving connection with the person who has been through thick and thin with you.
- Physical Intimacy: Ah yes, sex! Well, perhaps, and perhaps not. Physical intimacy has to do with closeness and pleasure, not necessarily a sexual act. How long has it been since you took a long, sensual shower together taking time to gently cleanse your partner from head to toe? Have you ever slow-danced naked together totally immersing yourself in the sway of your partner’s body? When is the last time you sat face-to-face with your partner staring deeply into one another’s eyes and speaking softly about what you find there? As Mikey used to say in the Life cereal commercial… “Try it, you’ll like it!”
- Spiritual Intimacy: Couples who pray or meditate together have been proven to have stronger, closer relationships than those who practice their spiritual rituals separately. Sharing the connection you have with your Higher Power infuses your relationship with peace that passes understanding. At least once a week set aside an hour to take your partner’s hands in your own and speak to your Maker together. Share the experiences of the past week, voicing thanks for shared pleasures and asking for the qualities you feel you need to strengthen your appreciation of your spouse in the week to come.
- Mental/Emotional Intimacy: Begin each day by addressing your life partner with the sentence, “The thing I most value about you at this moment is… ” Regularly ask your partner, “What can I do today to make you feel loved and cherished?” Share the vulnerable side of yourself by asking your mate to lend strength to you when you are feeling weak. Let your mate overhear you bragging about him or her to a friend. Put voice to a warm moment and make it known to your spouse that s/he has delighted you unintentionally. “You looked so free running through the yard with the grandkids this morning!” “Boy are you a cutie pie when you wear your red hat!”
Growing old together means much more than coexisting over time in the same domicile. It means celebrating your oneness on a daily basis. It means crawling into the soul of your mate and feeling comfy there.
Wellness: Sexuality
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Authored by CoopyRiter in: Sexuality
